August 2, 2011

For Richer. For Poorer.

This past weekend, my longtime dream of riding a zip line finally came true! It wasn't a huge one, but it was a good starter zip line. Once we finished our adventure, Nathan broke the news to me that he no longer had a job. He wanted me to have my fun that day, but he couldn't put off telling me any longer.

For richer or poorer.

Those words are spoken in traditional wedding vows for a reason; both are very real possibilities in a marriage. When I made that vow at my own wedding, I started crying as I thought of everything we'd already been through and knew we could make it through anything. Sure enough, when Nathan lost his job after just a few weeks of marriage, we survived the poorer for a time. But then he got this new job, with great pay, and I thought everything would be better. Poorer? That was all behind us! And now, here we are, back to just my income. Although I hope this will once again be such a short period of unemployment that we'll hardly notice it, we have no way of knowing.

Marriage is kind of like a zip lining. Even though I'd looked forward to it for a very long time, I didn't know what it would be like when I jumped off that platform. Sometimes it seems like an easy ride, but sometimes you start spinning out of control. You just have to have faith that the cord holding you up is strong enough that you won't fall into the pond.  It's a crazy ride, but I wouldn't want to do it with anyone else.

I know we'll be okay. Living on my income is certainly possible, just not a lot of fun. I'm so thankful that we fully funded our emergency fund and paid off all consumer debt during our first year of marriage. If you have not yet done both of those things, I would truly encourage you to do so as soon as you possibly can. Although you may think everything is great now that you're richer, you never know when Poorer could come to visit.


  1. Oim sorry to hear that! Unemployment can be so stressful. I'll pray he gets a job soon!

  2. ugh, i hope he finds something soon!
    My husband's income has been less than stellar since we've gotten married, and currently, he'll be not working (but going to the fire academy full time) for 5 months. I am not looking forward to it. I know money isn't everything, but it sure does help. And money problems are just an added strain. I guess our men are both extremely lucky to have us, but we're also extremely lucky to have them : )

  3. Callie - Thanks for the prayers!

    Newlyweds on a Budget - Yes, I still feel blessed to have him as my husband! Money is nice, but having him run errands and help our more around the house is pretty nice too.

  4. Sorry to hear the news. I hope he finds something soon. I'm glad you are so financially prepared!

  5. Thanks, Mrs. D! I'm glad too.


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