November 4, 2010

10 "Shocking Secrets"

I found this article about "10 Shocking Secrets of the First Year of Marriage." We're a third of the way into our first year, but I wanted to compare our experiences so far with the article's claims.

This has nothing to do with anything.

Claim #1: You'll gain a little love weight.
I have gained a few pounds, but when we got married I was at the lowest weight I'd been in my adult life. If I start exercising again on a regular basis, the weight will come off. I definitely don't want a few pounds to turn into creeping obesity.

Claim #2: Your B-list buds will go MIA.
We weren't really going out for "Friday-night drinks" as the article says before we were married either. Neither of us went to high school or college in this city, so we don't have a lot of friends here to hang out with. We've seen more of Nathan's friends than mine since getting married. I need to make some road trips to change that.

Claim #3: After the honeymoon and a happy homecoming, life can turn, well...a bit PG
Well, there are these things called jobs and responsibilities you have to go back to doing after the honeymoon.

Claim #4: You won't unpack your china for six months.
I don't have China. I have some boxes of stuff we need to take to Goodwill, but I've unpacked everything I planned to unpack. I never really intended to have an
"idyllic space" here, but I do fantasize about what I'll do with a house when we have one.

Claim #5: You'll do the dishes; your husband will fix stuff you fall into clich├ęd roles
We do what works for us. As I mentioned previously, I do most of the house work because that's what seems fair right now. When Nathan had a short spell of unemployment, he was doing the dishes.

Claim #6: Even though you'll have two paychecks, you'll still feel broke.
This makes no sense to me. I guess our situation is kind of unique since our combined income is much, much higher than it was a year ago and we have fewer expenses. However, I definitely don't feel rich by any means since we have debt.

Claim #7: You won't want to spend every moment with your new husband.
I enjoy every moment I'm able to spend with him. We did end up spending a weekend apart a couple months ago, which I didn't think would happen so soon in our marriage, but we each had things we needed to do in different states so that's just how it worked out.

Claim #8: You'll go to bed mad, even though you vowed not to—ever.
This hasn't happened. We've had some conflict, but we take as long as we need to resolve it.
Claim #9: Being a wife won't mean you'll instantly have skills worthy of an Iron Chef.
Actually, I've been shocked by how much my cooking skills have improved. I was convinced I couldn't cook, but I guess I just needed someone to cook for to motivate me to actually try.

Claim #10: The world will feel like a better place.
I'd have to agree with that one. If marriage makes your life worse, there's probably a problem.

This article wasn't all that shocking or profound. I might make a list of some more substantial things I've learned about being married.
Any other "shocking secrets" to add? 

1 comment:

  1. I totally agree with you on the cooking thing. Since my husband and I got married in August I have been cooking so much more!
    I just started a newlywed type blog at if you want to check it out!


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